The first few weeks of preschool can feel like a strange mix: your child’s backpack might look too big, the routine too hectic, and both you and your child might find yourselves navigating emotions you didn’t expect.

Even with a gentle start, it’s common for children to show resistance after a few days or weeks. Clinginess appears out of nowhere. There may be more tears at drop-off, more meltdowns at home, or even a return of behaviours you thought were long behind you - like thumb-sucking, toileting accidents, or night waking.

These aren’t signs something’s gone wrong. They’re signs your child is adjusting.

Young children process change slowly, often with a delay. The novelty of a new space may carry them through the first few days - but once the routine sets in, the emotional work begins. Regressions, boundary-pushing, and mood swings are common. Your child isn’t misbehaving - they’re checking: Is my world still safe? Who’s holding me steady while everything changes?

You don’t need to fix the feelings. You just need to hold steady. Predictable routines, warm goodbyes, and calm responses go a long way. A short goodbye ritual - a hug, a phrase, a wave from the gate - can offer comfort and consistency. Avoid sneaking out or rushing the drop-off; these may feel easier in the moment, but they chip away at trust over time.

At pick-up, avoid pressing for answers. Children are often too tired to recap their day. Instead of “How was school?” try:
– “What was something you liked today?”
– “Did anything feel tricky or different?”
Or simply reconnect through a snack, a cuddle, or parallel play. You’ll often learn more by watching their play than by asking direct questions.

Transitions are rarely linear. One week might feel smooth, and the next, wobbly. That’s normal. Your child is learning how to separate, adapt, and return - and so are you.

In most cases, what looks like regression is your child finding their footing. If distress persists, speak to your child’s teacher or someone you trust. But often, the best support is your steady presence, your patience, and your willingness to trust the process.

Over time, things settle. Drop-offs feel lighter. Routines feel familiar. And the same child who once clung tightly might begin to wave you off with a grin.